It's been over 2 years since my last post...I've thought often about returning, but decided today was the day when I was out for my morning run/walk! I have always had the best ideas when in the shower, the best talks with myself while mowing the lawn and today...I decided, that I have decent writing ideas or blogposts while running. So today, since I was bljogging anyway, I decided to get back at it...
Today's discussion with myself: Some people parent alone, others parent alone, and some parent alone. Over the last three years, I have parented alone. Truly alone. I am not divorced (some people single parent at times), and I do not have an uninvolved spouse (other people feel like a single parent at times). I run my household alone, truly alone.
It is always interesting when I visit with others and the discussion turns to complaints about the amount they do at their house or how they get "stuck" running their children here and there...YEP, I get it (or do I?)! And don't think I don't. At my house it is all me. All me! A few times, I have pointed this out to friends, who apparently have not realized/remembered who they are talking to when they are spouting...and I'm not judging them for spouting...I used to do that all the time. I am simply saying, when you spout to me about "single" parenting, I get it (or do I?)...needs no explanation.
The interesting part comes in the response after the reminder...some apologize for flippant comments. Some kick up the defense of their complaints. And some even try to tell me how they get my situation. No you don't, unless you are a widow, too.
In fact, that is the crux of the matter...no one totally gets anyone's situation unless you've lived it. You can't imagine it unless you've been there. And even then, we all need to realize, you still don't get it.
We all live unique lives, we can only understand pieces of others' lives at best, that's what we all need to get.
